The last week or so has been about India’s Daughter – its ban in India, BBC releasing it on Youtube, numerous posts about freedom of expression and even more about how the documentary shames India. Personally, I have been having discussions (I would still call it discussions and not arguments) about the same at various platforms – face to face, over email, over Facebook – well, everywhere and I wondered what about this documentary and the entire last week troubled me the most. I might start blabbering now, so you can choose to continue or stop reading since you know what this post will be about – you have the choice, you see. Atleast for now.
I do have issues with the documentary. I am not completely fond of it. There are areas which even I don’t agree with. To begin with – the name itself. India’s Daughter. Yes, its again the bracket of a daughter, a sister, a wife! She is not an independent girl who dreams – she’s a daughter who dreamt of being a doctor. Not a woman. But a daughter. Looks like even Udwin knew the strength of patriarchal labels in our country. Further, the way the documentary was being promoted at all mediums and forum! To begin with, when I saw the promos, I thought it was only about Mukesh and what he thought. But the documentary definitely had more than that, which was not highlighted, and hence the subsequent ban on the same. But I also think, by promoting it in that manner, they got the attention they wanted to.
I am not aware clearly of the legal aspects which were broken by the filmmakers during the shoot and post, but wasn’t it our government and our Tihar jail officials who let them enter the space first with the camera? Would an Indian journalist be allowed to do the same – I wonder.
What troubled me the most about the last week were the many people who stood by the Government’s decision on imposing a ban on the documentary. Let’s get one thing straight – rapes are happening in this country at an intensity which scares each and every one of us – the documentary did not show anything new which we didn’t know. The problem (for some was) that it was a little too clear a reflection of what’s happening in our country. In the past few months, haven’t some of our politicians, religious leaders, people in power said almost the same thing what Mukesh said in the documentary – why wasn’t there such an outburst then? Why wasn’t an action taken in such a haste against those statements? In many circles, what women should wear, what women should eat and not eat, who should women go out with, at what time should she come back home seem to be the new conversation starter like politics used to be earlier! Why then the anger only towards the documentary – may be because it just shows out in the open what many people are actually thinking! India is not filled with rapists. I agree. But when National Crime Records Bureau of India states that 93 women are raped everyday in India – where is our outburst and anger then? And by the way, this number is only the reported cases. In a country where the rape is blamed on the victim for all the spectacular reasons (clothes, time, person she was with, person she was not with, food… I can go on), there are many cases which go unreported because once a girl is raped, her life is over. Period. And what about the rapist? Well, he can continue with his life. Like the lawyers in the documentary said – she deserved it, and the rapist just gave her what she deserved. Simple.
We shouldn’t be crying about who made this documentary. May be this documentary created that stir again which was there two years ago. Where did it die now?
We should be angry that such cases continue to happen. It did not stop with Nirbhaya. Did it? It did not stop with Mukesh! We should be angry that there are still people out there who think its their responsibility to teach women lesson who are out at nights, wearing what they want, doing what they want. We should be angry that we have lawyers (who are still practising) who say that “We have the best culture. In our culture, there is no space for a woman” with such conviction! What we should be really angry is not about a documentary causing us national shame but rapes in real!